1. Mangarisika
Envoy to visit from the man who is not authorized to place women in the context of assessment. If a proposal to hold a door open so the parents want him to sign (the sign holong and the woman gave a sign of the eye). This type of gift items that can be cloth, gold rings, and others.
2. Marhori hori-Wall / marhusip
Talks between the two sides are applying for and spoken for, is limited in relation to its closest relative, and not known by the public.
3. Marhata Sinamot
Male relatives of the parties (in limited numbers) come oada female relatives to do marhata sinamot, talking about honest money (tuhor).
4. Pudun Sauta
Party without male relatives hula deliver rice and chopsticks container side dishes (which has been slaughtered cattle) received by the parboru and after a meal together followed by a portion juhut division (of meat) to members of the family, which consists of:
1. Mother's clan relatives (hula-hula)
2. Father's clan relatives (dongan tubu)
3. Members of the clan-law (boru)
4. Pengetuai (older people) / pariban
5. Saut the end of the activities of the family Pudun women and men agreed to determine the time-masuon Martumpol and Pamasu.
5. Martumpol (read: martuppol)
Signing of the marriage by their parents consent of both parties on the planned marriage of their children in front of church officials. Partumpolon ordinances performed by church officials in accordance with applicable regulations. Follow-up is Partumpolon clergy preach the wedding of the bride and groom through the church bulletin, which in HKBP called Tingting (read: tikting). Tingting this should be done twice in a row Sunday. If after two Tingting no new claims from other parties can proceed with the wedding ceremony (pamasu-masuon).
6. Martonggo King or Mary King.
Is a pre-party activities / events that absolute ceremonial feast held by the organizer / event aims to:
Preparing for the interests of the party / event that technical and non technical
Public notice on that at a given time there's a party / wedding and it's related to the other party does not have a party / event at the same time.
Requested permission to surrounding communities, especially dongan sahuta or use of public facilities in the planned party.
7. Manjalo Pasu-tubs Parbagason (Marriage Blessing)
Ratification of the wedding the bride and groom by ordinance of the church (blessing of the marriage by the clergy). After blessing the bride and groom wedding is over then it is legitimate as husband and wife according to the church. After completion of the entire event-masuon pamasu, the two sides that participated in the event-masuon pamasu or not to go to the residence of the parents / relatives of the elderly woman to throw a party show. Performance by a male relative of a party called the Party Mangalap parumaen (read: parmaen)
8. Feast of Performance
joyful celebration of the marriage are sons and daughters. Feature of the feast of joy is to share a portion:
1. Portion distributed to relatives parboru is juhut portion (meat) and the portion of money (tuhor boru ni) divided by the regulations.
2. Portion is distributed to relatives paranak is dengke (read: dekke) and ulos divided according to the rules. The party ended with a show of bringing home the bride to the home paranak.
9. Mangihut in Ampang (dialap sell)
That is brought to the bride groom who was hailed by male relatives accompany the sale of food with a lid ulos provided by the male relatives.
10. Sell Ditaruhon.
If a party to the marriage was performed at the groom's house, the bride is allowed to go home to where his parents to then transfer again to the place namborunya namborunya. In this case paranak must give upa manaru (wages lead), is in selling dialap upa manaru unknown.
11. Paranak eat together at the residence of the man (Rule ni the Panganon)
1. On arrival of the bride and entourage at the home of the groom, then the meal was held with all the invitations are still willing to go to the home of the groom.
2. The food you eat is food that is brought by the parboru
12. Paulak Unea
After one, three, five or seven days the woman lives with her husband, then paranak, the minimum of the groom and his wife went to the house-in-law to express thanks for the wedding went well, especially the state of both the bride during her maiden (this event more of the legal aspects relating to the sanctity of the woman until she entered in the marriage). After completion of the event paulak une, paranak returned to his hometown / her home and thenstart a new life.
13. Manjahea.
After a while the bride and groom married life (if he is not the youngest), then he will dipajae, which separated the house (the residence) and livelihoods.
14. Maningkir Stairs (read: manikkir stairs)
Some time after the bride and groom married, especially after a stand-alone (homes and livelihoods have been separated from the parents of the man) then came to visit parboru paranak maningkir steps with a view (which is a ladder here is a newlywed households) . In this visit parboru also carry food (rice and side dishes, and dengke dengke simundur sitio tio-back). With the completion of these steps maningkir visit then finished a series of custom wedding na GOK.
